1. There’s Too Much Emphasis On Instant Gratification.
We live in an age of high speed everything. High speed internet, high speed 3G phone service; we expect everything to happen for us immediately now, and that’s a problem for love.
Love is a slow build up. It’s not an instant thing. You can’t go on 3 dates and expect to be ready to live with each other.
2. Drugs And Alcohol Are Used Too Heavily.
This is hardly a universal trait among people who have a hard time being in love. It’s not that roasting a bowl after work or having a beer with some friends on the weekend is really all that bad for you and your love life, but it’s when it becomes addiction that it’s problematic. In many cases, drug and alcohol use are on the decline, but it’s still love’s worst enemy in a lot of ways.
3. Sleeping Around Is On The Rise.
I’d argue that there’s nothing inherently wrong about sleeping around when you’re not in a steady relationship, aside from the possibility that diseases spread. Use protection! Go at your own pace. You don’t owe anyone anything. But in the same way that drugs damage your potential for love when you self medicate, 6ex can be a kind of medication too. If you’re fine with6ex that isn’t particularly special, that’s fine. But if you’re using it too fill a void in your life, it may hinder your ability to love fully in the future.
4. People Are Into Themselves More Now Than Ever.
More and more, we think about our needs before the needs of anyone else. It’s getting to the point of insanity. No one wants to take care of anything that doesn’t personally pertain to them. This constant self-interest makes it hard to let love into your life.