It seems that the further we look, the harder it is to find couples who are in strong, happy, healthy relationships. But, it is important not to get discouraged, because they are out there, in all generations.
We often credit our parents’ or grandparents’ generations with having longer-lasting, more solid relationships. While this may be the case, relationships like these do not just happen randomly. They require consistent effort from both partners. Here are some valuable lessons we can take from couples with the strongest relationships.
1. Arguments Are Natural And Don’t End It All.
Strong couples understand that if you’ve got a house and a light bulb goes out, you fix the light bulb — you don’t sell the entire house. Just because you have arguments or fights doesn’t mean the demise of the relationship. You can disagree with someone and still be in love with them. Just make sure to never be insulting, and understand that if you fight all the time, it is a red flag.
2. You Can’t Overstate How Much You Love Someone.
If you love him or her with the intensity that you need to in order to spend a lifetime together — make sure he or she knows it. Hearing “I love you” never gets old. As an added bonus, it helps eliminate any insecurities or doubts because you are keeping your partner confident about your feelings.
3. Your Family Is Their Family, And Vice Versa.
Family is an important part of any relationship. If you don’t think so — just imagine the tension present if you are with someone who your parents/aunt/uncle/friends/brother/sister openly dislike.
While it is unrealistic to expect everyone will always get along and like each other, it is important to put in the effort to treat his or her family as your own.
4. Keep Your Private Life Private.
It doesn’t take more than 30 seconds of scrolling through Facebook to spot more than one person’s relationship issues. When you start inviting the public into your relationship, it no longer becomes your relationship. Sure, share your fun dates, post goofy photos together, enjoy yourself — but make sure you draw the line where necessary.